Two weeks after Eid Mubarak my cousin held his wedding in Samarinda, East Kalimantan. My family helped the bride's family for the preparation. I never thought if prepared the wedding is really distressing especially when you decided to did your tribe wedding tradition as my cousin.
I grew up in two different tribe (Banjarnese and Javanese) so I'm not really do those tribe traditions, because I confused to choose honestly haha. Here, I just wanna share how Indonesian wedding that my cousin already did :)
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| Before "ijab" (solemnization of marriage), we bring "seserahan" (gifts) for bride. |
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| Ijab Kabul - Officially, Mr & Mrs ! |
Before reception, one of bride's family came to accepted groom. Groomsmen bring "kembang mayang" as symbol of merging creativity, taste, and intention for the happiness and safety. Kembang mayang from groomsmen will exchange with bridesmaid's kembang mayang.
After arrived in bride/reception place, They did "Ngidak Endog/wiji dadi". Groom stepped on an egg then bride washed groom's feet. It means the readiness of the groom to be the head of household and the bride's willingness to serve her husband and in it means an expected to get a good generations from that marriage,too.
Groom and bride draped by a fabric and lead to aisle. This step called " Sindur" as a hope for bride and groom for don't give up to face challenges of life. It continue with "sungkeman" as an expression of devotion to parents and ask their blessing.
After all, we all enjoyed my cousin wedding. Actually, that was not a complete wedding tradition there are so many steps in Javanese wedding tradition. Behind the long process there is a hope from family, friends, and others for goodness of their marriage, Aamiinn.
Beside it,
I always remember there is a hadist in Islam :
شَرُّ الطَّـــعَامِ طَـــعَامُ الْوَلِـــيمَةِ يُدْعَـــى لَـــهَا الْأَغْنِـــيَاءُ وَيُتْرَكُ الْفُقَـــرَاءُ
Meaning: The worst kind of food is the Walimah's food (wedding party's food) which were invited the rich while the poor are not invited.
(HR.al-Bukhari&Muslim)
That's your decision if you want a simple wedding or luxury wedding but don't forget the poor one. For me, wedding is just not share a good time and feels with family and others but how my marriage can make everyone happy and worthy.
this is the wedding that inspire me the most,click here.
THANK YOU FOR READING !
